As we slam into the end of the year it seems we can’t avoid the bombardment of messages telling us to buy buy buy
Yet, by next year it’s likely whatever was bought this year will either be broken, out of fashion, not the Apple 8, or lost and forgotten. But there is something you can put on your list that will grow and flourish over the coming year.
Forgiveness.
Like the disclaimers flashing, Don’t Try this At Home, you, too, should exercise caution.
Before leaping into the seemingly impossible practice of forgiveness for the parent who abandoned you, the lover who cheated on you, or the partner who embezzled from you …
Start with yourself.
What does forgive actually mean?
for·give
VERB
- To stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake:
That someone could be YOU.
Beyond the definition, a hidden message appears when you separate the word FOR –GIVE of it’s compound components
FOR-GIVE
We are always talking about what we ‘re “for”
I’m for equality.
I’m for clean air,
I’m for lower taxes.
What if you put the emphasis on the word GIVING?
What would you be for Giving to yourself?
Would you be for giving yourself kindness?
Would you be for giving yourself another chance?
Would you be for giving yourself a break from cruel and punishing criticism?
Would you be for giving yourself support and faith?
Would you be for giving yourself appreciation?
Forgiveness is about letting go of the destructive, self-condemnation, resentment and verbal abuse that perpetuates and keeps active that which you regret.
You cannot change the past, but if you are conscious in the present, you can actively amend a path, repair a relationship and/or cultivate a new one—even with yourself.
In short, forgiveness allows us to move in a more desired direction (Am I Getting Hotter?) eventually leading us to a more desired destination.
True forgiveness is work at a deep honest level, not just a mantra you pop off like a cute emoji.
Forgiveness requires an honest appraisal of self. Recognition where you missed the mark and a commitment to begin again.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you condone or approve the condition, it means you accept the reality that it is what it is and you are where you are.
You can never get from here to there without first recognizing and accepting where you are.
If you want to be 125 lbs. and you are 250, you must accept where you are and love your way ( along with other steps) to get where you want to be. If you’ve betrayed a relationship, you must accept that reality, convey your true and sincere apologies and act differently. You can’t control whether your partner will accept and forgive you, but you can learn and choose differently henceforth.
Forgive and Forget, is the common expression and prescription for righting all wrongs.
We know it’s not so easy to do.
But….
What if we viewed ForGetting in a new way?
Not in the sense of not remembering and whiting out a memory, but more actively in the sense of
For – Getting
Would you be for Getting a healthier mindset?
Would you be for Getting a new pattern of behavior?
Would you be for Getting conscious and aware?
Would you be for Getting a new start?
Every moment is a reset button waiting to be pushed.
Are you for GIVING yourself a chance to press that reset?
Make Believe~Make Belief Affirmation: Today I am conscisouly For-Giving myself love and appreciation.
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