One of the most common limiting
beliefs is
I’m not good enough.
Is that a thought that
permeates some area of your life?
Do you think you have evidence of that when you look at your results and wonder
how you got there?
Let me cut to the chase,
How you got there was this…
You either took an action or didn’t
that landed you in the relationship you’re
either in or not
That got you the income and a job you either
like or don’t
and in the body you either loathe or love
I can’t soft peddle it. We both know
it’s the truth,
BUT….
Is it because you are REALLY not good enough? Or is that just a THOUGHT you are thinking?
The good news is: they were YOUR
actions or inactions which means you have CONTROL.
And in a world of millions of things you
can’t control, that’s good news
What CAN you control?
YOUR THOUGHTS
Let me back that up—You really can’t control
the 60,000 purported thoughts that tsunamify your brain on a daily basis (
whose doing all that counting anyway and how do they keep track?)
But you can, with the skill and acumen of a
badass bouncer,
Examine them
Question them
Get curious about them
And either lift the velvet stanchion to
allow their entrance or kick ‘em to the curb.
This takes vigilance, determination and
commitment.
Indulging a debilitating thought like “I’m not good enough” is like
laying down the red carpet for a terrorist strapped with a suicide
bomb—someone’s going to get hurt.
How do you banish thoughts that derail,
drain and diminish you?
Brooke Castillo, an outstanding Life Coach,
and one of my mentors offers a model of self-coaching that I use on myself and
with my clients.
Think of it as a dissection tool separating
facts from drama.
Identifying your thoughts and feelings
Observing your actions or inactions and
noticing your Results.
So where does change REALLY take place?
At the thought level.
You can start by simply questioning the
thought.
Thoughts are only true because we believe them to be and practice
thinking them .
Recipe for Making a New Belief
Step 1: Acknowledge the thought
Step 2: Politely (or not) disagree with that
old thought (I’m not good enough.) Say it aloud: " Really? I
disagree.“
Step 3: Install a new thought and ask what
you’d feel with that new thought.
Step 4: If I thought I was good enough, I’d feel confident. If I felt confident, I’d keep persisting no matter
what. If I kept persisting I would get the job I want, be in the relationship that is satisfying and achieve the body I like.
Your thoughts are yours. They drive your
feelings and get your results.
Your thoughts are both precious and
volatile. Guard them like the Crown Jewels and supervise them as if they
were plutonium.
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